hard to be the mama…

UGH! It’s so hard when your child struggles. It’s even harder when, as the mama, you have to tell your child one thing when all you want to do is scoop him up, hug him and tell him it will all be okay. But, that’s not always the BEST thing a mama can do for her son. Sometimes, she has to tell him what he NEEDS to hear, not what she WANTS to say. The eldest had a meltdown in class today. Why is basically irrelevant. He felt unheard. He felt un-valued. He is neither. But, that too is irrelevant. Sometimes, what we FEEL is more relevant than the TRUTH. Because while we feel unheard and un-valued, how can we hear the truth. It hurts my heart that I have to say, “Son, you CAN NOT behave that way.” “Son, you can not meltdown in class.” “Son…” Later, after the lectures have sunken in and we’ve washed the day away, I can hug him and tell him it will all be okay.