So, I saw a FB meme that rubbed me the wrong way. It was an astounded face and the caption was something like, “the face I make when my friends who have nt kids say parenting is hard.” You know what. It is hard. It’s hard to be a parent. If we belittle our friends who have nt children, are we giving them support and empathy that we desire?
Raising decent human beings is hard. Parents of kids on the spectrum, we don’t have an exclusive on worry and sleepless nights. We don’t have an exclusive on how are we going to afford x, y, or z. We don’t have an exclusive on kids having meltdowns or tantrums in public. We don’t have an exclusive on feeling judged. We don’t have an exclusive on extreme picky eaters, kids who don’t want their hair cut, kids who are hyper active. We don’t have an exclusive on kids being social outcasts or being bullied. In fact, I recently witnessed some NT third graders being quite crappy to one another. We don’t have exclusives on any of it.
By saying parenting a NT child is easier by comparison does exactly what we don’t want. It marginalizes our kids. It says to the world, they are harder to love, they are less than. They aren’t.
Being a grown up is hard. Being a parent is hard. Period. By saying my life is harder than yours because my kid has autism is doing more harm than good for the autism community. My life is different than yours. Sure. But my life is different than yours for more reasons than autism. It doesn’t make it harder, it makes it my life. My dad sent me this meme, and I think it speaks volumes.
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Love this. 100% truth. Sure things are hard for me, I get excited at milestones. I know how happy I felt the first time my little boy told me he loved me a month ago….I would have felt the same happiness if he told me 2 years ago.